Back on September 2, I wrote a blog about five tips for lasting weight loss.
And although that’s very important (you can check it out here)…
There’s another very important element of lasting weight loss, and we don’t talk about it enough.
And, it’s definitely not something they tell you at Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig.
Because there, the focus is only about the calories and stepping on the scale.
I always tell my rebels, and any readers of my blog, that weight loss is a journey, and one that you definitely want to be sustainable.
So, if we want our weight loss to be successful, to be sustainable, and not a burden…
If we want it to become an actual lifestyle change, then we have to look at our victories.
The Victories of Lasting Weight Loss
For those of you wondering, NO, these aren’t the “lose 10 pounds in 10 days” kind of victories.
Because those victories, well, they’re a one-way ticket right back on the diet/binge diet train (and we hate that train, right?).
Let’s face it, you’re tough. And you can probably muscle your way through a 30-day cleanse, or a 90-day flush or whatever…
But you can’t make that a lifestyle. Weight, lost like that, will come back.
Instead, I want you to start to see (and focus on) the other huge victories that you will achieve as you go through a lasting, sustainable weight loss journey.
Curbing Your Late Night Snacking
One of the most important victories that I see in my clients (that are way more important than a lower number on a scale) is when they tell me late night snacking has finally slowed (or even stopped).
Lots of women suffer from this type of compulsive or binge-eating…
And all it takes to start to slow this down is learning how to find that balance during the day.
Feeling fed and satiated, but not overdoing it, all so that you’re not “starving” at night and finding yourself in front of the open fridge door (for the 4th time in a single hour!).
Forbidden “Failure Foods”
Another big win is to know: it’s okay to eat junk food once in a while.
This goes hand in hand with a related win: letting go of the feelings of failure that go with eating certain foods.
I’ve noticed that a lot of women (and a lot of my clients) have a sort of “bad” and “good” food list.
Obviously, junk food is on the bad food, while other foods (read: less fun foods) are on the good or healthy food list.
And you continually pick foods from the good list, knowing, never to eat from the forbidden food tree.
Then, without realizing it, you’re not allowing yourself to really ever have those things you enjoy, and that denial builds and builds…
Until you stumble into one of those big binges I mentioned above.
Well, what’s the difference then? Doing all that denial just to wind up bingeing and feeling like a failure.
Instead, on your lasting weight loss journey, you learn to allow yourself once or twice a week to just eat that stuff (in moderate, responsible amounts).
Get it out of your system!
And that mind shift, that’s a really big win. To know that you will survive that food, and that it won’t cause you to gain 10 pounds overnight.
Work Out Wisdom
Another big win: realizing that you don’t have to work out every day!
The fitness industry, magazines, Instagram celebrities – they all share the same common theme, that we all bought into…
You have to be in the gym for 2 hours, 6 days a week, (7 if you aren’t weak)…with 90 minutes of cardio under your belt, and at least 1,000 crunches!
But what you realize once you’ve embarked on a sustainable weight loss journey, is that you don’t have to go on the treadmill morning and night (while trying to watch TV) because you ate so much.
You finally know that your body needs needs a certain amount of calories to function properly and keep your hormones remain in balance.
And you’re ok with committing to that number, plus a rational amount of physical fitness.
You reach that moment when you’re okay with just walking those extra steps in the parking lot, and working out a couple days a week.
Instead of working out every day, so now, you have time for other stuff.
Another big win: realizing that you can go on vacation and enjoy and indulge.
Your old version of vacation was probably something like this…
- You go out to the breakfast bar…
- Oh look, there’s bacon!
- (4 minutes later) You eat a little bit too much bacon…
- Bad feelings & failure feelings creep in, so…
- You make bad decisions all day…
- Then again, and again, and again.
Old you, before your sustainable weight loss journey, would start to just eat whatever, and feel like, “what the heck, I’ve screwed up now, it doesn’t fucking matter anyways.”
But, you now, post-sustainable weight loss, is instead thinking: “Hey, it’s ok, I won’t gain weight from this in the long run.”
That’s when you used to gain weight from self-sabotage.
Not from enjoying yourself one night or even one week…but giving up for months (sometimes years) at a time.
Getting caught in negative mindsets, and failure is what will cause you to gain weight. Dwelling on it and thinking about it for days on end…
Not eating too many pieces of bacon one morning on vacation!
Your lasting weight loss journey will give you that clarity. That moment that you realize, “Hey, I can do this and I don’t have to sabotage myself and I am not gaining lasting weight from one week of overindulging.”
Being A Survivor
Another HUGE win: realizing (if you have or have had an eating disorder) that, even though it is freaking hard to get over, you come to feel that it’s going to be okay.
Let’s be honest, we all know that addiction (and diseases like it) is no joke. They can tear you all the way down to the bone.
And what I’m about to say next, is in no way meant to minimize the difficulty of dealing with any other addiction…only to show how difficult food addictions are…
When you suffer from alcoholism, the key step is to not drink ever again.
Easier said than done: ABSOLUTELY. But still, that’s a pretty black and white line…
You know to avoid situations where alcohol will be around and hard to resist, or will tempt you.
But, what if your addiction is food?
Try being that absolute about food: don’t eat ever again…
And you’ll be dead.
You cannot just avoid food, it literally gives us life.
So you need to find a realistic way to live with, and manage your disease, because it will always somehow be a part of you.
But if you can accept it, if you have some structure, and you have that freedom in your mind…
Then you can overcome this!
And you can make it last. Losing weight in a sustainable, healthy way; having the body that you really want…you can have it all.
It’s About The Journey
That’s what I want you to know…weight loss is the journey, the progression.
Knowing that this is not going to be a 10 day solution. Or a 30 day, not even a 90 day…
It’s all those little victories that you make along the way that keep you going, encouraging you to have trust and faith in the process.
So, instead of hating yourself for your mistakes and missteps, you’re learning to love yourself for your wins.
You deserve to have the life that you want. And I know just the lifestyle change that can help you get it.